Loosen Your Grip

This world is out of control. That is, it’s out of your control. Consider all the elements of your own life that you can’t control. You can’t control the weather. You can’t control the economy. You can’t control natural disasters. You can’t control the behavior of anyone you know: your aging parents, your intimate partner,…

The Challenge of Being Present with People

For the past two years I’ve surveyed people about their strengths and weaknesses when it comes to the skills of mindfulness and attention.  Mindfulness as an idea is quite well known, but as a practice it actually involves a collection of attention-related skills.  I’ve identified four skills that relate to the way we use our…